Tips for Dealing with Infertility
Dealing with infertility can be a very difficult time for many couples. Many emotions are experienced during this time and it can be very stressful for couples, too. The emotional roller coaster is unpredictable and you never know when you will get good news; you’re left constantly wondering. You may feel self-deprecated, “What is wrong with ME?,” or guilt for not being able to provide a child for your partner, or even disappointment as every periods feels like another failure. Many experience sadness for wanting something so desperately, and for some, comes the added devastation of getting pregnant only to miscarry. Dealing with infertility takes an enormous amount of courage and emotional strength.
Here are some tips to help you deal with the emotions that come with infertility:
Talk with your partner
Don’t let guilt or embarrassment keep you from sharing your feelings. Individuals communicate differently, you might want to approach your spouse over a nice walk or an extended car ride rather than across the table. This will help your partner to share their feelings too. You may both find strength, comfort and acceptance in your honesty and sharing your feelings can increases one’s sense of intimacy.
Share with close friends or family
Talk to family or close friends about your struggles with conceiving. Sometimes verbalizing fears and frustrations can alleviate some of the shame and stress of hiding the secret. Support groups are another great way to share your experiences, especially with people who are undergoing similar struggles. SpringCreek Fertility offers a support group that could definitely be what you’re looking for.
Explore Online Support
If you are uncomfortable sharing your personal struggle with those who know you, search out websites and chat rooms where you can be anonymous and stay connected to people going through similar experiences. Keep in mind that many times women who write or blog are the ones having the most difficult circumstances. You should always confirm with your health care professional what you read to make sure it is medically accurate and the advice given is something that would be beneficial in your efforts to conceive.
Sweat it out
Exercise can help clear your mind and pump up endorphins. Moderate exercise is good for you and can be just the boost you need during this journey.
Foster your mind, body and spirit
Try yoga, meditation, hypnosis, acupuncture, massage, circle of bloom, or take a mind/body class – anything to get back in touch with your beliefs and inner strength. A great way to learn more about different whole body, holistic options is to join the Fertile Pathway’s meetings at SpringCreek Fertility.
Take a break from “baby brain”
Allow yourself up to an hour a day to educate yourself about conception, lurk on the internet etc. but that’s it. After that, read a steamy novel, get your nails done, go dancing, take a walk, watch a funny movie, go on a date, or do anything else you enjoy that doesn’t involve babies.
Seek help when needed
While all the emotions are completely normal and understandable, if you feel they are interfering with the way you function or negatively affecting your relationships, talk to your doctor, look into support groups in your area, or seek counseling. You already have enough on your plate to deal with; don’t let depression rear its ugly head and take over your life!
Although it seems that baby bumps and babies are following you everywhere, 7.3 million Americans or 1 in 8 couples experience infertility. At SpringCreek Fertility we are here to support you during this journey. Reach out if you’re looking for emotional support; we will be there to help you every step of the way.
My name is Jordan. I am the newest addition to Spring Creek Fertility. I recently graduated from the University of Dayton with my Master’s of Physician Assistant Practice. I am from Minneapolis, Minnesota but was born in New Mexico. In my past life, I was a flight attendant for a regional airline out of Minneapolis. In my free time I like to work out, travel, and go on adventures